If you or someone you know is seeking help for domestic violence,
text START to 88788 or
call thehotline.org at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233).
Empowering Survivors: An Essential Resource Guide
Our comprehensive Resource Guide is designed to empower and support victims of domestic violence on their journey to safety and healing. Packed with vital information, including emergency contacts, safe housing options, childcare and more, this guide is an invaluable tool for survivors. By providing clear and accessible resources, we aim to help individuals regain control of their lives, make informed decisions, and access the support they need to rebuild and thrive. Together, we can create a community of hope, resilience, and strength.
How Do I Know if it’s Abuse?
- Telling you that you never do anything right.
- Showing extreme jealousy of your friends or time spent away from them.
- Preventing or discouraging you from spending time with others, particularly friends, family members, or peers.
- Insulting, demeaning, or shaming you, especially in front of other people.
- Preventing you from making your own decisions, including about working or attending school.
- Controlling finances in the household without discussion, such as taking your money or refusing to provide money for necessary expenses.
- Pressuring you to have sex or perform sexual acts you’re not comfortable with.
- Pressuring you to use drugs or alcohol.
- Intimidating you through threatening looks or actions.
- Insulting your parenting or threatening to harm or take away your children or pets
- Intimidating you with weapons like guns, knives, bats, or mace.
- Destroying your belongings or your home.
*hotline.org
How to Support a Friend or Loved One Experiencing Abuse
Supporting a friend or loved one who you believe is being abused can be challenging, but your compassion and understanding can make a significant difference. The first step is to listen without judgment. Let them share their story at their own pace and validate their feelings. It’s essential to believe them and reassure them that the abuse is not their fault.
Encourage them to seek professional help. Provide information about local resources, such as hotlines, shelters, and counseling services. Offer to accompany them to appointments or support groups if they feel comfortable. It’s crucial to respect their decisions and autonomy; leaving an abusive relationship is a complex and personal choice.
Be patient and persistent. Abuse often involves cycles of manipulation and control, making it difficult for victims to leave. Stay in regular contact, offer a safe space for them to talk, and remind them that you are there for them unconditionally. Your support can provide the strength they need to seek help and eventually break free from the abuse.
Use our resource guide above to help with finding support with housing, pets, childcare and more.